I had been thinking of cutting off my hair for quite awhile. In the mark of this realization, I knew the time was right. I made the decision and asked my husband if he would want to help me. He agreed and that evening we celebrated being free, being alive, and being creative in the moment by shaving my head. It was even more meaningful for me to have my love and biggest supporter of 10 years holding my hand (and the clippers) during this experience.
I wasn't sure if I wanted to write about all of the reasons why or even discuss my decision in a public forum...for this experience was so holy, so about letting go of the ego and needing to prove or impress anyone that I felt it might be tainted by speaking of it. However, a week out and I've had time to reflect. I know that we all face fear of rejection. We all feel the need to impress or look a certain part from time to time. We all hear the voices of self-doubt and criticism rise up when our inner self wants to take a chance. And I am writing today to say it is all bullshit. These false voices, lies told by the ego to keep you away from your own inner divine brilliance, can only be silenced (or at least noticed and dismissed) by becoming aware of them and making the choice to do so...no matter who is watching or listening.
So, here it is... My top 3 reasons why I chose to cut off my hair.
3. I feel the need to challenge stereotypes that limit us from getting to know our true selves. One of those is that women need to do and act a certain way to be "pretty", "feminine", or "accepted". That we are valued primarily on our looks. It's been interesting the responses I have gotten from well-meaning friends and family. "Oh, you have the face for that hair cut." What does that really mean? That if my face didn't have 'feminine' features, that I should hide it with my longer hair? Does anyone say to a man, "Oh, you have the face to wear your hair short like that..." I asked my husband and he said he has heard that statement said to men who wear long hair. So, do they have to have an overly 'masculine' face to wear long hair, so not to get confused with a woman? Got forbid we not look our gender stereotypical roles! People would have to see past male vs. female and actually get to know a person for who they are. Hmm...something to think about.
There are other, more practical, reasons why I chose to do it. I don't have to worry about washing/drying, getting it wet, frizzy-hair days, forgetting my hair tie and it getting in my face, or how to fix it for different occasions. It is simple, easy, and good for the environment and my health not to have to use certain products to make it look the way I want it to. By cutting it at home, I don't have to shell out the cost for a salon visit.
However, those are all secondary considerations. Will I keep it short? I don't know... Will I shave all of it completely off or dye it or rock a fo-hawk as it grows? Who knows...and who cares, really? (Honestly, you probably don't. And if you do, you shouldn't.) It's just hair. What really matters is that fear will not dictate how I present myself to the world. My physical presence isn't as important as my spiritual presence. What you see on the surface isn't but a fraction of the depth that is underneath. It is that way for me, for you, and for all of us.
The next time you hear that inner mean voice judging you on how your body, hair, or clothes look...tell it to shut it! You know that the sum of your physical body does not make up who you are. It is your inner divine self that is truly you, no matter what kind of hair day you are having.
And the next time you start to judge someone by their appearance, take a moment to see the light within them, no matter how dim it might be shining that day. Because as you look at their inner light, your own inner light reflects back to them even brighter. And then you will have touched the divine nature that is pure love which we all share, regardless of the length of our hair.